Managing the impacts of image-based abuse

It can be very stressful when an intimate image or video of you has been shared, or someone has threatened to share it. But you’re not alone and help is available.

This page gives you tips on taking care of yourself and getting support so you can limit the impact of image-based abuse.

On this page:

• How image-based abuse can affect your wellbeing
• Reach out for support
• Tips for taking care of yourself online and offline
• Explore more information

Everyone’s experience of image-based abuse is different. Some people we have helped said they felt betrayed, broken-hearted, scared, angry or humiliated. Others felt ashamed or embarrassed, especially if they were scammed into sharing nude or sexual content. Young people were worried they would be in trouble if their family or school found out. 

All these feelings are normal.

It's important to remember what’s happened is not your fault. Even if you sent the image or video to the other person in the first place, or agreed to get sexual with them in a live chat, they have no right to share it with others.

Also, you’re not alone. Image-based abuse, including ‘revenge porn’ and ‘sextortion’, can affect people of all ages, cultures, religions, genders, sexual orientations, education levels and bank balances.

The experience can impact your sense of safety, trust and self-esteem, especially if other people keep seeing the images or videos online – this is why eSafety helps remove them. 

We know from the people we’ve helped that things can get better with non-judgemental support. 

It can be hard to ask for help, but talking with someone else about what’s happened can make a big difference.

Tell someone you trust

Telling a friend, family member, co-worker or someone else you trust can help you feel heard and supported, easing the stress. They may also give you practical support, like help filling out eSafety’s online report form.

Try to make sure they have enough time to focus on you without distractions, and that you’re in a space where you feel safe and comfortable when you tell them. Keep in mind that different people may respond to you in different ways. Some might be shocked, upset or angry. If this happens, remember that you’re not to blame for what’s happened and ask them to focus on what you need help with now.

If you find it difficult to start the conversation, or they want more information, you could show them our advice about How to help someone deal with image-based abuse.

Contact a counselling and support service

Contacting an expert counselling and support service is a good idea, especially if you’re not sure a friend or family member can help you.

Counselling and support services include crisis hotlines that can give you free and confidential advice any time of the day or night, through to services that provide regular and ongoing support from a counsellor or psychologist. 

Finding help is important if you’re anxious or depressed, or feel like things are getting too hard for you. Signs to watch out for include changes in your mood, sleep patterns, energy levels and appetite. Not feeling like socialising (or going to school or work) can also be a sign that it’s time to get more help.

ReachOut has helpful advice about how to choose the right mental health professional.