Unfortunately there are many websites, forums and blogs encouraging eating disorders, and providing strategies to help people with disorders hide their symptoms and behaviours from their friends and family.
It is fairly normal for a person with an eating disorder to search these websites, as they feel welcomed and connected into these communities where other people experiencing eating disorders share their stories and tips….but these can be extremely dangerous.
Part of the treatment plan you develop with your child, and the treating professional should include an agreement about their online contacts, and an agreement that you will monitor them online for their safety.
If you don’t live with your child’s other parent, ensure they are also on board with any plans. If they won’t co-operate leave it to the professional to discuss the issues with them.
It is also a good idea to inform any family friends or parents of friends that your child spends time with, to ensure they are aware of a need for monitoring, without embarrassing your child.
It is normal for people who are unwell with an eating disorder to feel angry, ashamed, guilty, hurt, and extremely anxious. They may take this out on you, as their disordered thinking may be telling them you are a threat. Their mind is telling them to keep up their dangerous behaviour, and you are getting in the way. It is important to find your own support to help you through this difficult time.