Family and Friends

Quick Guide

It’s not easy to work out what to do when someone has shared an intimate, nude or sexual image of you without your consent. This ‘quick guide’ shows you how to connect with support services, request the removal of images and some of the legal options open to you under Australian law.

1. What is image-based abuse?

Image-based abuse (IBA) occurs when intimate, nude or sexual images are distributed without the consent of those pictured. This includes real, altered (i.e. Photoshopped) and drawn pictures and videos.

While most image-based abuse is about the sharing of images without consent, it can also include the threat of an image being shared.

Image-based abuse is also commonly referred to as ‘revenge porn’, ‘non-consensual sharing of intimate images’, or ‘intimate image abuse’. ‘Revenge porn’ is the term most commonly used in the media, but in many cases IBA is not about ‘revenge’, nor is it restricted to ‘porn’. IBA can occur for a range of motives and can include many kinds of images and video.

Examples of image-based abuse include:

Quick guide for family and friends of victims of image-based abuse
  • Their current or ex-partner sharing an intimate image of them on social media without their consent.
  • Their work colleague Photoshopping an image of them with an explicit image and sharing it broadly via email.
  • A stranger taking an intimate image without their consent, also known as ‘up-skirting’ or ‘down-blousing’ or ‘creepshots’, and sharing it on a website or porn site.

Around 20% of Australians have experienced IBA.^ Although women aged 18-24 are more likely to be targets, IBA impacts people regardless of their age, race, religion, gender, sexual orientation, education or bank balance.

Friends and family have a very important role to play in helping victims of image-based abuse. Research shows that victims often turn to friends and family first, and that reassurance and support go a long way to helping victims handle the situation. Friends and family who offer unconditional support, focus on the victim’s experience, and do not blame the victim, are the most helpful.

2. What are the impacts of image-based abuse?

For every person who has been a target of imagebased abuse, the experience is different. When an intimate image is shared without consent, the effects can be devastating. Targets of IBA may feel annoyed, angry, humiliated, embarrassed, overwhelmed, depressed or downright devastated. It can be terrifying to discover that an intimate image of them has been shared without their consent. Even more distressing can be the knowledge that the distribution of this image may now be out of their control, or that it could form part of their lasting digital footprint.

The impacts of IBA can be far reaching. People who have been targets of IBA report that it has affected their self-esteem, mental health and physical wellbeing, and that it can impact on relationships with friends, family and intimate partners. Victims of IBA also describe negative effects on their school work, study and performance at work.

If someone you know has been affected by image-based abuse and would like emotional support, please encorage them to contact one of the counselling and support services listed later in this guide.

3. Don’t blame your friend or family member

For many, the thought that friends and family might see an intimate image of them is of particular concern. If you have already seen this image by the time you talk with the person affected, it is important to reassure them that they can talk to you about how they’re feeling and that you don’t think any less of them or blame them for what has happened.

Everybody has the right to live without online abuse or the threat of abuse. As we increasingly live our lives online, the threat of image-based abuse has increased. Some people hold out-dated attitudes that blame victims of IBA, when the blame should fall squarely upon the perpetrators. These views are unhelpful and can add stress to an already difficult situation. While a victim of IBA may have consented to share an image with one person, or to have one taken, this does not mean they consented to share it with anyone else. They can also withdraw their consent at any time. Every instance of IBA is different, but what unites people who have experienced IBA is that images or videos of them have been shared without their consent.

One of the most important things you can tell your friend or family member is to remember that it is not their fault and they are not alone. This quick guide can show you some concrete things you can do to help them take action, access support and understand their legal options.

For other tips on how to support your friend or family member, including supporting a child, please see support for family and friends.

4. What to do if this has happened to your child

If your child’s intimate photo or video has been posted online, here are some useful points to better understand and help them:

  • Take a deep breath – remember that teenagers and young adults are growing up in a world that is different to their parents. The best thing you can do is support and reassure them.
  • Never blame or shame them for what they have experienced. Reassure your child you will continue to support and love them. This is critical in helping to protect their mental health.
  • Ask your child what they would say if this happened to a close friend, and help them to direct those same kind, caring words towards themselves.
  • Work through the practical steps outlined below, and in more detail on the portal, to have the image removed.
  • You can seek advice and support through the Parentline service and through our online resource hub, iParent , where parents can learn about online risks and issues and topics such as e-security and parental controls.

5. What to do if an image of someone you know has been shared without their consent

Ensure their immediate safety:

  • Make sure that they are in a safe place.
  • If they are at risk of immediate harm call Triple Zero (000) .
  • If they are experiencing image-based abuse as part of an abusive relationship, contact their local police or a social worker.

If someone you know is in an abusive relationship or is experiencing domestic violence

If the perpetrator of the image-based abuse is potentially violent, strongly encourage the victim to speak to the police, a lawyer, or a support service. It is important that the victim has a safety plan in place before attempting to take the damaging content down, no matter how quickly he or she wants it removed. This is because the perpetrator may react violently once the image or video is removed or the account is deleted. This is particularly important when the person posting the material is also abusive to the victim or others offline.


If image-based abuse is being used to threaten, blackmail or control someone you know, contact police or seek support from the services listed below before attempting to have the image removed. This is known as sextortion and may have legal consequences. You can also help your friend or family member to make a report to the Office of the eSafety Commissioner if you are unsure if it is sextortion and we can help you direct your friend or family member to the appropriate support services.

Support and counselling

There are a number of support and counselling services to help deal with the emotional effects of image-based abuse. Some are available free of charge. These include:

1800RESPECT   1800 737 732

All ages. Counselling for anyone affected by sexual assault or domestic and family violence (including family members). Open 24 hours daily.

Lifeline   13 11 14

All ages. All issues. All day, every day.

beyondblue   1300 224 636

All ages. All issues. All day, every day.

Kids Helpline   1800 55 1800

5-25 year olds. All issues. All day, every day.

Headspace and eHeadspace   1800 650 890

12-25 year olds. All issues. Open 9am-1am AEST daily


16-25 year olds. All issues. Online resources only (no telephone/online chat support).

MensLine   1300 78 99 78

All ages. All issues. All day, every day.

Q-Life   1800 184 527

All ages. Counselling and referral for people who are lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans, and/or intersex. Open 3pm-12am in your state, every day.

Remember, the Office of the eSafety Commissioner is here to help. You can find more information on available support services.

Preserve evidence

Victims of image-based abuse often want to have the images and videos taken down, or removed, immediately. This is a perfectly natural response. You will find more information on how to remove images below. But it is important to preserve evidence first.

The victim of the image-based abuse may be able to take legal action. To do so, it is helpful to collect evidence before the content is taken down. Evidence can help you show police and the courts exactly what happened.

Evidence can also be useful if you plan to report the abuse or threatening behaviour to the site or social media service it was posted on. Showing evidence of the image-based abuse can help to have the person who shared the image or video blocked from that service. It may also help to prevent images of your friend or family member from being shared again in the future.

For more information on how to collect and preserve evidence of image-based abuse, please see this simple guide simple guide.

Is the person under 18? Take extra care

The guidance on this page is for collecting evidence of image-based abuse concerning adults. Possessing, creating or sharing sexualised images of people under 18 may be a crime. For more information about relevant laws in Australia, visit Lawstuff .

6. How can I help to get an image or video of a friend or family member taken down?

There are some key steps you can take to try to get images or video removed. These include reporting the material to a social media service or website to have it taken down, making a report to the Office and contacting the person who posted the image.

1. Report an image to the website or social media service it is posted on

Most major websites and social media services have policies that prohibit the posting or sharing of intimate images without consent. They also provide specific pathways for reporting and take down.

The image-based abuse portal has a list of popular sites that have reporting mechanisms for image-based abuse. The portal also provides advice about what courses of action you and your friend or family member might take if the image is posted on an unlisted website or service, including websites that promote abuse (also known as ‘revenge porn’ sites). You can also learn how to block images from search results in Google and Microsoft Bing.

For more information see this guide on useful links for removing images

2. Report an image to the Office of the eSafety Commissioner

You can make a report to the Office if your family member or friend is a resident of Australia and:

  • You are worried about contacting a website or social media service yourselves
  • You need help to contact a service or website
  • You or your friend or family member have tried, but the image is still online

Our expert team are ready to work with you and find the best way to help.

Information on reporting an image to the Office

3. Contact the person with the image

An initial course of action could be to ask the person who has shared the image to remove or delete it, if you or your family or friend think they will be reasonable. You can let them know they do not have consent to share or post your image.

An example of the kind of message you and your friend or family member could send is provided here.

However, if you fear for your friend or family member’s safety, or they are experiencing imagebased abuse as part of an abusive relationship, it is best to try other options.

7. What are the legal options for victims of image-based abuse?

If someone has shared nude, sexual or intimate images of someone you know, or is threatening to do so, there may be laws to protect them.

The Federal Government is looking at ways to strengthen laws to better protect Australians against image-based abuse.

Engaging help from local police

How local police can assist depends on the laws which apply within the victim’s state or territory, and more general laws, including federal laws, which may help with image-based abuse. Local police can also apply for a protection order to protect your friend or family member from a violent or abusive partner or person.

At present, laws vary state by state and can be complex, even for legal experts. The following laws may assist in instances of image-based abuse:

  • Grooming
  • Indecent images
  • Classification
  • Child sexual exploitation
  • Stalking
  • Threats of violence
  • The use of a carriage service provider to harass, menace or cause offence

The Office’s image-based abuse portal provides an Australia-wide overview of relevant legislation as a guide, but it is important to note that law is constantly evolving and changing in this area. You can find more information on engaging help from police and legal assistance.

Understanding the differences between civil cases, where the victim sues the alleged perpetrator, and criminal prosecutions, might also help you to determine whether you should go to the police.Learn more about what you can expect from a civil or criminal case.

If your friend or family member reports image-based abuse to police they will need to take detailed information about what has happened to help in any investigations. A simple guide about how to collect evidence can be found here.

Legal assistance

A lawyer or legal service can help by discussing the legal options and the legislation which applies in each state or territory, including how to apply for a protection order if necessary. A lawyer can also speak to the police with your friend or family member, if required. Lawyers can advise whether criminal or civil charges could be pursued against the person who shared the image without consent. Advice on where to get legal assistance, including pro bono legal advice, can be found here.

8. The Office of the eSafety Commissioner

The Office of the eSafety Commissioner has been given the primary role by the Federal Government in helping to support victims of image-based abuse. The Office’s image-based abuse portal encourages victims to access a range of resources and assistance and to help take steps to stand up to abuse and take control.

The office provides:

  • Information and advice, including when to approach Police, options for legal assistance, and relevant laws in Australia.
  • Reporting options—how to report image-based abuse to popular social media sites, as well as how to report an image to the Office, and what to expect. The Office can also advise about options to request image take down, based on the specific details of a report.
  • For those who may be in need of legal advice or counselling support services, the portal has links to set victims on the right pathways to emotional support and justice.
  • Resources, including information and contacts, as well as case studies and videos about different types of image-based abuse from people who have experienced it.

^Henry, Nicola & Powell, Anastasia & Flynn, Asher & Gendered Violence and Abuse Research Alliance & RMIT University. Centre for Global Research et al. (2017). Not just ‘revenge pornography’: Australians’ experiences of image-based abuse: a summary report. RMIT University, Melbourne.