This may be for a number of reasons; your teenager might be more independent and capable of handling problems, they might not want you to know about their personal life and their relationships, or they might just be worried about your reaction and getting into trouble.

We spoke to a number of young people, and they opened up about what they wouldn’t tell you if they were being cyberbullied, and why they’re so hesitant to get you involved.

Mother and child

'If someone had cyberbullied me, I’d probably cyberbully them back, so I’m not sure if I’d get into trouble for that or not."

'Obviously if you’re cyberbullying someone, you’re not going to run home and tell your parents."

'I don’t want my parents in on my personal business. It’s too embarrassing."

'Lots of cyberbullying stuff I know about is between friendship groups, and my mum will know their mum. So I don’t want anyone to get into trouble because I went and told."

'They don’t understand cyberbullying. It’s like, they just think all you have to do is turn your phone off and all your problems are fixed. They just don’t get it."

'Most cyberbullying I know about at my school involves sending nudes, so if it happened to me there’s no way I’d be showing my parents that stuff."

'I just wouldn’t speak to my parents about stuff like this because they’d probably take my phone off me or try to ban me from Snapchat. That’s just not going to happen."

'If I was being cyberbullied and my parents found out, they’d probably make it worse. They’d go to the school or the parents or whatever and just make everything so much worse for me. It’d be embarrassing."

'So many parents just say toughen up, or get over it, or something like that … like you’re being weak or whatever. It’s worse for guys too because you’re supposed to just take it and not get emotional or anything, even if it makes you really sad."

If you’d like to follow along with what young people with their parents understood, search for the hashtag #IWishTheyUnderstood


The top 5 for parents

Finding out your child is being cyberbullied must be heartbreaking. As a parent, I imagine all you’d want to do is take some kind of action to stop it—and stop them from hurting—straightaway.

But, sometimes, first reactions are not good for your kid, or the situation. So before you jump in as Super Parent and save the day, think about my top 5 tips.

Read Rosie's top tips for parents

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